With the relationship of human beings, it tends to be one of the essential things that every human beings should uphold. This is because with a good relationship, then there will be cohesion and integration amongst them. Basically, a relationship, whether between family members or friends is built through a series of events. It is not something that just happens in a day. There must be something good done so that a good and strong relationship to be build. When a loved one for instance is in a certain situation that may need assistance, then you can make yourself available to that person and offer hand of assistance. There is tendency of after such assistance is offered to help the person learn to appreciate whatever you’ve done to them hence increasing the relationship. There is tendency of this aspect of being there for each other and giving a hand of assistance is what in modern days is called holding space for someone.
When holing space for someone, one of the aspects that should be respected is the decision of the person being helped is always valid. When it comes to this, it is essential to offer a room for the person being assisted to express his or her own thought, feelings and attitudes towards the matter at hand. Listening keenly when you are holding space for other person is as well an aspect that you should observe and maintain. This assures the persona that whatever he or she is saying is valid and all the decisions made are valid. After giving the persona the required space for to express himself or herself, then you can hand in the advice or the best assistance for you to have a common interest and goal to the problem.
Another trick for holding space is by being aware that your actions as well as reactions are based on the internal emotions as well as the kind of judgment patterns that you may not be aware of at all. There is need for the individual to ensure that they are not able to portray or rather show their emotions that would otherwise relay another message that would have a negative message to the individual who they are listening to. The individual should also be able to avoid asking questions that would make the conversation to break while the individual is still talking.
With holding space, it requires the individual to avoid becoming defensive or even avoid from portraying that they are interested in finding the solution to the problem. It is not the work of the individual to come up with or bring a solution to the problem of the individual.